“It’s never going to happen for me.”   How many times have you had this thought when you found out that someone else was getting married, or even just got a boyfriend? This thought that because someone else has what you hope for, it can’t or for some reason won’t happen for you now? Honestly, […]

I used to believe I had to hate my singleness if I ever wanted to get married.   It made sense, somehow, that if I was content being single, there would be no reason for me to have a husband, or need one. In fact, more than anything, I worried that being content meant that […]

I’m going to tell you a (not so) secret.   I never planned or wanted to write about singleness. I especially never wanted to experience singleness for so long that I have THIS MUCH to say about it. But do you know why I’m grateful for it? Why I love it? Because blogs, books, resources, […]

“I’ll do that when I’m married.”   That was my mantra for years. “That will be better, more worth it with a husband, so I’ll just wait for him.” I remember specifically feeling that way when I decided I wanted to run a marathon. It wasn’t so much that I needed a guy to run […]

“If I just had a husband, this would be so much easier.”   That’s what I used to think when it came to any of my life goals that required something from me that didn’t come naturally, or that just didn’t seem readily available. Skills I need to own a business, companions to travel with, […]

If you knew you would get married tomorrow, what would you savor today?   It’s easy to dream about what we look forward to in marriage. (trust me, I have a long list.) Those things readily come to mind the moment we find ourselves longing for the day that hope becomes a reality. But what […]

All my dreams didn’t come true in 2019.   In fact, they didn’t come true even in the last decade. I started 2010 face down on my bed, sobbing into a pillow at the stroke of midnight. I had been dumped just a few days earlier, a time when I once thought I would be […]

I cried more tears in my 22nd year of life than all the years before combined.   My boyfriend of four years and I broke up a few days after my 22nd birthday, and just a few days before New Years. I rang in 2010 sobbing into a pillow on my parents bed, while Auld […]

“Please, God, don’t let me be single that long”   Do you ever meet people who got married far older than you are now, and have this thought? Most people would imagine that stories of women getting married older would give us single ladies hope. But often, instead, they send us into imagination-mode. Imagining what […]

You guys.   Sometimes I feel like my memoir is going to be called “I have the perfect guy for you, but he has a girlfriend”. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this. First of all, this isn’t the point of the post, but I need to just say that if you […]