Hey friend, I need you to know something.   Those expectations that tell you you’re behind, that your timeline is off, that make you feel unworthy, like you’re failing? They’re completely and totally made up. That’s right. Made up by society, culture, even our families.   And if you’ve ever needed evidence that this is […]

I’ve been a ruminator for as long as I can remember.   In high school, I’d lie awake at night thinking about all that could go wrong the next day. As I grew older, I realized that by ruminating on what could be, some part of me believed I could prevent it from happening. Surely, […]

“At least you have a husband.”   Yep. I’ve said it. Probably more times than I can count. Maybe not out loud, but certainly in my mind. Someone is telling me a frustration or challenge they’re having with their spouse, and the whole time I’m labeling them as ungrateful. You have exactly what I want, […]

“It’s never going to happen for me.”   How many times have you had this thought when you found out that someone else was getting married, or even just got a boyfriend? This thought that because someone else has what you hope for, it can’t or for some reason won’t happen for you now? Honestly, […]

So there’s something that you want.   Maybe even something that you’re working hard toward. You’re scrolling through Instagram, and BAM. Right there, before your eyes, you see someone else has it or has done it first. What’s your first thought? I’ll be honest. My immediate instinct, the second I realize someone else already has […]

All my dreams didn’t come true in 2019.   In fact, they didn’t come true even in the last decade. I started 2010 face down on my bed, sobbing into a pillow at the stroke of midnight. I had been dumped just a few days earlier, a time when I once thought I would be […]

A few weeks ago, an improv group came to do a workshop for our team at work.   I promptly deleted the invitation when it landed in my inbox, as getting up in front of a group and making up a fictional story WITH ZERO PLAN is my worst nightmare. But the day of, I […]

I was at a work conference recently and the speaker said something that I haven’t been able to shake.   He was talking about how hesitant people are to do anything (in fact, they may even think its impossible) until they see someone else do it first. Then suddenly, once one person has done it, […]

A few months ago I changed the tagline of my blog to “Changing the Way We Think About Singleness.”   Though I’ve been writing for several years now, I never quite knew what I wanted my message to be. Then I noticed a theme. My writing had become an extension of my own personal journey […]

What was your reaction the first time someone suggested being content in your singleness?   I’m pretty sure my internal response was something like “Um sure, thanks for your input. Now please take that thought with you and get on up outta here. Also don’t come back. Thanks. God bless.” I literally could not wrap […]