Hey friend, I need you to know something.   Those expectations that tell you you’re behind, that your timeline is off, that make you feel unworthy, like you’re failing? They’re completely and totally made up. That’s right. Made up by society, culture, even our families.   And if you’ve ever needed evidence that this is […]

I’ve been a ruminator for as long as I can remember.   In high school, I’d lie awake at night thinking about all that could go wrong the next day. As I grew older, I realized that by ruminating on what could be, some part of me believed I could prevent it from happening. Surely, […]

All my dreams didn’t come true in 2019.   In fact, they didn’t come true even in the last decade. I started 2010 face down on my bed, sobbing into a pillow at the stroke of midnight. I had been dumped just a few days earlier, a time when I once thought I would be […]

A few weeks ago, an improv group came to do a workshop for our team at work.   I promptly deleted the invitation when it landed in my inbox, as getting up in front of a group and making up a fictional story WITH ZERO PLAN is my worst nightmare. But the day of, I […]

Someone asked me recently how I’ve stayed so positive and upbeat during this year of weddings.   I initially didn’t have an answer, and also felt the immediate need to tell her that I drove home from the last wedding with the same song on repeat pretending a man was proposing to me as it […]

“I am behind”   Oh, how often I’ve thought this. Behind in my job. On my dreams. In my relationship status. We begin to internalize this belief from a young age. Our childhood is spent following much the same path as those around us, so much so that when the paths begin to diverge, our […]

In church yesterday, the pastor said something that struck me.   Honestly, it wasn’t an earth shattering revelation, but rather one of those simple truths of the human experience. It went something like this: “As humans, we innately believe that if something feels good, it is good. If something feels bad, it is bad.” Oh […]

I was at a work conference recently and the speaker said something that I haven’t been able to shake.   He was talking about how hesitant people are to do anything (in fact, they may even think its impossible) until they see someone else do it first. Then suddenly, once one person has done it, […]

A few weeks ago I posted a photo of “me and the hubs” at my family picture day on Instagram.     (he’s pretty stinking good looking, am I right?!) Well here’s my real, very senior portrait looking photo from that day. And do you know what I love most about it? I asked for […]

Before this one, I had another blog, my first blog, called The Swing Set (swingsetproject.com).   The mission of the blog was to interview elderly members of our community and inspire others with their wisdom and life stories. The first person I ever interviewed for that blog was a woman named Beverly. Beverly was never […]