All my dreams didn’t come true in 2019.   In fact, they didn’t come true even in the last decade. I started 2010 face down on my bed, sobbing into a pillow at the stroke of midnight. I had been dumped just a few days earlier, a time when I once thought I would be […]

I felt it.   The twinge. That little spark that shivers through us when joy creeps in. I felt it. And in the very same moment, I pushed it away. You see, life wasn’t as I thought it should be, the way that I planned. What I saw around me was simply what I had, […]

A few weeks ago, an improv group came to do a workshop for our team at work.   I promptly deleted the invitation when it landed in my inbox, as getting up in front of a group and making up a fictional story WITH ZERO PLAN is my worst nightmare. But the day of, I […]

I cried more tears in my 22nd year of life than all the years before combined.   My boyfriend of four years and I broke up a few days after my 22nd birthday, and just a few days before New Years. I rang in 2010 sobbing into a pillow on my parents bed, while Auld […]

“Please, God, don’t let me be single that long”   Do you ever meet people who got married far older than you are now, and have this thought? Most people would imagine that stories of women getting married older would give us single ladies hope. But often, instead, they send us into imagination-mode. Imagining what […]

You guys.   Sometimes I feel like my memoir is going to be called “I have the perfect guy for you, but he has a girlfriend”. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this. First of all, this isn’t the point of the post, but I need to just say that if you […]

“Will there be any new guys at this party?” “Hopefully there’s a single groomsman in this wedding” “That guy isn’t wearing a ring. Maybe it’s him!” “What if I meet him on this trip?” “New guy at Bible study! Could it be?”   Sound familiar?   It certainly does to me. At times, these have […]

Someone asked me recently how I’ve stayed so positive and upbeat during this year of weddings.   I initially didn’t have an answer, and also felt the immediate need to tell her that I drove home from the last wedding with the same song on repeat pretending a man was proposing to me as it […]

“I’m going to be the last one to get married.”   Have you ever had this thought? It feels like you’ve somehow lost a race to all your friends, right? Like maybe one day you’ll cross the finish line, but bringing up the rear? I know this feeling all too well. In the midst of […]

Wedding season is upon us, friends!   And though a time of great joy and (hopefully) great cake, for us singles it can also feel like a series of events designed only to remind us of our single status. Filling out RSVP cards for one (can I get both meals, though?). Awkward bouquet tosses (I’ll […]