I was chatting with a friend recently and she mentioned she’s started asking herself, “What would I do if I knew I would never get married?”
What dreams would she pursue? Where would she go? How would her choices be different if she weren’t waiting for her relationship status to change?
I thought, how often are we as single women guilty of making our life choices based on a man who hasn’t shown up yet?
We so often wonder if we will ever get married, not just because it’s a hope in our hearts, but because we would make different choices if we knew.
And until we know the answer for certain, we let our wondering and our waiting trump all else.
We worry that taking a chance or changing our course will put finding our guy at risk, and that we are better off to just stay put. We worry that we will make memories without a significant other, and that there won't be any memories left to be made when we do find someone. We are willing to put off our dreams or never pursue them at all waiting for just one dream to come true.
But a relationship does not define us.
Our relationship status is not all that we are, and getting married is not the ultimate task we are put on this earth to do.
What adventures could we be missing if we keep waiting? What magical, awe inspiring moments will we never see? Will we just let our goals and passions fall by the wayside?
So I ask you, if you knew you would never get married, what would you do?
Better yet, whether you get married or not, what do you want to do?
Where do you feel called?
I encourage you today, whatever the answer to that question, go and do. Go and live this life TODAY.